If you react immidiately to criticism then you'll often react in a Knee-jerk manner, and the words that come outmay be overemotional, vivious and unnecessary. Count at least 10 after someone has criticised you, then respond.
This simple way of calming yourself down and regaining some perspective can save you a lot of trouble and help you avoid saying something you can't take back.
it's a good approach to avoid creating unnecessary problems.
Maybe you've heard this one before. Its a great and practical way to look at criticism. It might be extra useful when dealing with angry, destructive criticism and nasty personal attacks.
A man interrupted one of the Buddha's lectures with a flood of abuse. Buddha waited untill he had finished and then asked him,"If a man offered a gift to another but the gift was declined, to whom would be gift belong?"
"To the one who offered", said the man.
"Then", said the Buddha,"I decline to accept you abuse and request you to keep it for yourself."
Simply don't accept the gift of a criticism, you don't have to. Then it still belongs tto the person who offered it.
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